FORGIVENESS

I didnt know what to write about all morning until now. The thought just popped into my head to write about forgiveness.

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is the mental and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. Simply put, it is letting go of any hurt you feel against someone who has wronged you. Its easier said than done, dont you think? Oh! yes it is, but in the long run it is the best thing to do.

Is it a friend ,an ex-fiance or fiancee, a brother, sister, father, mother, uncle, aunt, colleague who hurt you? Did it hurt so bad you thought you could never forgive him/her? Uhmmm... i know what it feels like to be hurt, and i mean to be hurt real bad. You feel like your world is falling apart, but the truth is your world will only completely crumble when you choose not to forgive.

Isnt it interesting to know that the person who hurt you goes about his/her life like nothing ever happened, while we go about you move about with so much pain and hatred on the inside? The person who hurt you isnt the one going through the pain, rather it is you who chose to hold a grudge that suffers from so much pain, hurt, ulcers, migraines, sleepless nights ....and the list is endless.

Something happens when you choose to forgive; You move a step higher than the person who chose to condescend to offend you, isnt it amazing ? It sounds too good to be true, but that is exactly what happens when you choose to forgive.

So the next time someone offends you, make a decision to forgive instead of holding it against him or her. Its actually easier to forgive than to bear a grudge.

Shalom !

FRIENDSHIP

What is Friendship? Guess that question sounds a bit dramatic. Well, have you given it a thought lately?

According to Wikipedia, 'Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans.' I hope that sounds a bit familiar. Thats the whole essence of Friendship : co-operation and support.

So, how have you been fairing with your friends lately? Fine, not too fine? Uhmmm...not to worry, we all have been there before. We just cant do without our friends, can we? I doubt that very strongly because man was made for socialization not for isolation. I need you as much as you need me, thats what makes the world go round.

But there's a little snag here. Many people are wary of friendships because of the experiences they have had in times past;many have been betrayed or taken for granted, and as such are really careful when it comes to making friends. I quite understand, but in doing so, you might actually miss out on very wonderful friendships !

The irony of the situation is just that if you dont annoy your friends, they will so i guess thats the reason why we have to learn to adapt to one another. Even marriages have their ups and downs, but Couples have learnt to adapt to one another.

A suggestion : Have you appreciated your friends lately? If you havent, why dont you pick up your phone and send them a text message or give them a call telling them how much you appreciate their friendship because am sure you really do.

To all my friends out there, I Love you all so much and I wouldnt trade your friendship for anything in the world. Thanks for being my friend !